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    Information Suicidal Thoughts If you are having thoughts of suicide you're not alone. They can be scary and they can give you many other unwanted feelings and thoughts. Remember you don't have to act on these thoughts. Suicidal thoughts Depression Depression is more than an unhappy feeling for feeling fed up for a few days its much more than that. ​ Depression Self Harm Self harm is when a person causes physical pain to themselves. It is a difficult issue to start talking about and not a lot of people understand why someone may self harm. Self Harm View More "Don't let this darkness fool you, All lights turned off can be turned on." - Noah Kahan

  • Abuse and getting help | THE HOPE PROJECT

    Abuse and getting help If you or some you know is experiencing abuse or has in the past there is help available. You're not alone. Domestic abuse Domestic abuse and coercive control is a persistent and deliberate pattern of behaviour by an abuser over a prolonged period of time designed to achieve obedience and create fear. It may include coercion, threats, stalking, intimidation, isolation, degradation and control. It may also include physical and/or sexual violence. ​ Domestic abuse and coercive control are all about making a persons world smaller – trapping them, restricting them independence and freedom. A controlling partner may shut out their friends and family, control their movements, micro-manage what she eats or wears, restrict their access to money – all the time chipping away at their confidence and destroying their self-respect. It is not their imagination. It is not their fault. It is not acceptable. Read More Getting help If you’re trying to decide whether to stay or leave, you may be feeling confused, uncertain, frightened, and torn. Maybe you’re still hoping that your situation will change or you’re afraid of how your partner will react if he discovers that you’re trying to leave. One moment, you may desperately want to get away, and the next, you may want to hang on to the relationship. Maybe you even blame yourself for the abuse or feel weak and embarrassed because you’ve stuck around in spite of it. Don’t be trapped by confusion, guilt, or self-blame. The only thing that matters is your safety. If you are being abused, remember: You are not to blame for being battered or mistreated. You are not the cause of your partner’s abusive behavior. You deserve to be treated with respect. You deserve a safe and happy life. Your children deserve a safe and happy life. You are not alone. There are people waiting to help. There are supports available to help keep you safe. Your GP can help by referring you to appropriate supports and services in your local area. If you are in immediate danger, contact the Gardaí or call 999. You can also contact the Women’s Aid national helpline on 1800 341 900. Your local Citizens Information Centre can give you advice on your rights. They will also tell you about the supports and services available in your local area. Sexual assault or rape If you need to talk to someone in confidence about sexual assault or rape, the Rape Crisis Centre (1800 77 88 88 ) can help. Domestic violence Women’s Aid can help you if you are experiencing domestic violence. They give advice on how you can help yourself and others. You can also contact them 24 hours-a-day on 1800 341 900 . Men's Aid Ireland is a service for men who are experiencing domestic violence. You can call them on 01 554 3811 or email hello@mensaid.ie . Child Abuse Child abuse can be categorised into four different types: neglect, emotional abuse, physical abuse and sexual abuse. A child may be subjected to one or more forms of abuse at any given time. Abuse and neglect can occur within the family, in the community or in an institutional setting. The abuser may be someone known to the child or a stranger, and can be an adult, or another child. In a situation where abuse is alleged to have been carried out by another child, you should consider it a child welfare and protection issue for both children and you should follow child protection procedures for both the victim and the alleged abuser. The important factor in deciding whether the behaviour is abuse or neglect is the impact of that behaviour on the child rather than the intention of the parent/carer. Signs of Child Abuse Child abuse can be categorised into four different types: neglect, emotional abuse, physical abuse and sexual abuse. A child may be subjected to one or more forms of abuse at any given time. Abuse and neglect can occur within the family, in the community or in an institutional setting. The abuser may be someone known to the child or a stranger, and can be an adult, or another child. In a situation where abuse is alleged to have been carried out by another child, you should consider it a child welfare and protection issue for both children and you should follow child protection procedures for both the victim and the alleged abuser. The important factor in deciding whether the behaviour is abuse or neglect is the impact of that behaviour on the child rather than the intention of the parent/carer. Getting help for Child abuse Children and young people Childline is a confidential support service for children and young people. They take calls about a wide range of difficulties, including abuse. You can contact them 24 hours-a-day on 1800 66 66 66 . You can also text 'Talk' to 50101 . ​ You can also contact tusla https://www.tusla.ie/services/child-protection-welfare/definitions-of-child-abuse/ ​ Call 999/112 in an emergency. Resources in different countries Harassment It can take many forms such as: rude gestures touching following or watching damage to property and/or vehicles name calling and/or taunting phone calls and voicemails notes and/or letters emails and/or text messages rubbish being thrown on your property loud noise or music from neighbours Tweets, Facebook comments, YouTube videos; and other online posts ​ If you are a victim of harassment you may feel: That nobody is taking it seriously, and that something terrible will have to happen before you are really believed That you have no option but to move out of your neighbourhood or leave your workplace Afraid to answer your phone or look at your text messages Afraid to go away from your home in case damage is done while you are away Anxious any time you leave your home Worried about the effects on your children Afraid that if you report each incident the Police will think you are a nuisance or will not believe you Concerned that if you report the harassment, the situation may get worse. Harassment is an unwanted pattern of behaviour that can leave you feeling intimidated, scared, annoyed and/or humiliated. Read More Keep a written record of every incident. Write down the time and place of the incident, with as much detail as possible, and note down any person who saw what happened and who may be a witness in any criminal proceedings. Report the crime to the Gardaí. Harassment is a crime. It is important that you report it and that you make a statement to the Gardaí about what is happening. Each incident should be reported to the Gardaí. If an incident is serious, it should be reported immediately to the Gardaí. Consider mediation. Especially if it is harassment in your neighbourhood, this non-confrontational approach may provide the best outcome for you. Mediation is a confidential service that offers an alternative method for parties involved in a dispute to resolve their issues and reach an agreement which is acceptable to both sides. However, mediation is not always possible or advisable in some situations. If you think mediation might be an option for your situation, please contact the Crime Victims Helpline for more information. Keep all texts, voicemails, emails or screenshots of social media comments, as they will be useful in any investigation that may take place. Contact your telephone service provider for advice if harassment is by telephone. Each provider has a policy on dealing with the issue. It may be possible to block unwanted inbound communications. If the harassment is via social media, you can report it to the relevant social media organisation. It is possible to block a person from making contact with you on most social media sites. Consider installing a camera device on your property to provide evidence of harassment, and as a deterrent. Low cost cameras are now available. Avoid being drawn into a dispute. Do not shout back or retaliate. If you do, it is less likely that a case will succeed against the person who is harassing you. If the harassment is happening in a public authority housing area, ensure that you report it to the County or City Council. If the harassment is taking place in your workplace you should report it to your employer. Talk about your feelings with someone you can trust – a family member, a friend, a colleague. Going through this experience is very difficult and it is important to have support. Enquire about safety measures that can be taken to prevent harassment. You can seek advice from a Garda Crime Prevention Officer. Your local Garda station can supply you with contact details. For more information on what you can do, or if you would like to discuss your experience as a victim of harassment, you can contact the Crime Victims Helpline for free at 116 006. What you can do if you're being harassed More information If you need more information or your from the uk here are some links that may help. ​ Garda victim services Police uk support services ​ Domestic abuse UK womens aid uk Refuge Mind UK Mens advice line support line UK Citizens information UK Police uk Childline uk The hope project resources and information

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    Disclaimer If you require any more information or have any questions about our site's disclaimer, please feel free to contact us by email at Thehopeproject.ie@gmail.com Our Disclaimer was generated with the help of the Disclaimer Generator . Disclaimers for The Hope project All the information on this website - Thehopeproject.ie - is published in good faith and for general information purpose only. The Hope project does not make any warranties about the completeness, reliability and accuracy of this information. Any action you take upon the information you find on this website (The Hope project ), is strictly at your own risk. The Hope project will not be liable for any losses and/or damages in connection with the use of our website. From our website, you can visit other websites by following hyperlinks to such external sites. While we strive to provide only quality links to useful and ethical websites, we have no control over the content and nature of these sites. These links to other websites do not imply a recommendation for all the content found on these sites. Site owners and content may change without notice and may occur before we have the opportunity to remove a link which may have gone 'bad'. Please be also aware that when you leave our website, other sites may have different privacy policies and terms which are beyond our control. Please be sure to check the Privacy Policies of these sites as well as their "Terms of Service" before engaging in any business or uploading any information. Comment from creator. This website is for information ONLY. There are support groups but they are watched over continuously. If you are in crisis or need medical attention please contact your GP, local A&E or 999. I am not licensed or qualified to give mental health support in a crisis or emergency. I am here to direct people to the best service for them, for information or any questions someone may have. ​ Consent By using our website, you hereby consent to our disclaimer and agree to its terms. Update Should we update, amend or make any changes to this document, those changes will be prominently posted here. Get in Touch

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    Hope Shop The Hope Project shop is not on the website yet, it is on etsy. Follow the link below to purchase. ​ Money made from the hope project shop will go towards website upgrades, Suicide prevention posters as so much more. SHOP

  • Media and Hope News | The Hope Project

    Hope Project News Here you can find all media Interviews, News and events regarding the hope project and so much more. 01/ 03/ 2023 TippFm " We are the forgotten generation when it comes to mental health" ​ "Charlotte is 17 years old from Carrick on Suir. She set up the Hope Project two years ago when she was just 15. The ‘Hope’ part of the group is an abbreviation for ‘Hold on Pain Ends.’ The Project has a community of people from all around the globe. Charlotte was in studio with Fran. Press here to Listen. 14/ 02/ 2023 Irish Examiner "Case study: 'Under-18s are the forgotten generation' Charlotte McDonnell (17) was not surprised at the latest report criticising the Camhs, having faced obstacles during her time with the services in Tipperary." Press here to read full article Photo taken by John D Kelly 03/ 02/ 2023 Tipperary Live " Carrick-on-Suir teenager's HOPE Project campaigns for better mental health services for young people. A Carrick-on-Suir teenager is the founder of an online project promoting mental health awareness and advocating for better mental health services for young people. The Hope Project website was set up by Charlotte McDonnell two years ago when she was 15-years-old ​ Press here to read full article 03/ 11/ 2022 WLRFM "Charlotte Mac is a 17 year-old living in Carrick who joined Damien in studio to discuss her website The Hope Project. She set it up two years ago when she was just 15. The 'Hope' part of the website is an abbreviation for 'Hold On Pain Ends.' The Project has a community of people from all around the globe, including in America and the UK." Press here to listen

  • Bipolar disorder | The Hope Project

    Bipolar disorder Bipolar disorder Bipolar disorder Information, support and Tips on how to cope. What is Bipolar Bipolar disorder is a mental health condition characterized by extreme mood swings between periods of mania and depression. People with bipolar disorder may experience intense highs, increased energy, and impulsivity during manic episodes, followed by periods of deep sadness, low energy, and hopelessness during depressive episodes. The mood shifts can significantly impact a person's daily life and functioning. Rapid cycling bipolar Bipolar with mixed features Bipolar with seasonal pattern ​ ​ Bipolar 1 Bipolar 2 Cyclothymia ​ Types Rapid cycling in bipolar disorder means experiencing four or more mood swings (manic, hypomanic, depressive, or mixed) in a year. It can make treatment more challenging and impact daily life, requiring adjustments to medications and therapy. Not everyone with bipolar disorder rapid cycles Rapid cycling Bipolar with mixed features Bipolar with mixed features means feeling both manic and depressed at the same time. This is sometimes called mixed bipolar state or mixed affective bipolar. Bipolar 1 Bipolar I is a mood disorder where individuals have at least one intense manic episode, characterized by elevated or irritable mood and increased energy. Depressive episodes may also occur, Cyclothymic Cyclothymic Disorder, or cyclothymia, is a milder form of bipolar disorder. It involves recurring periods of hypomanic symptoms (less severe than full-blown mania) and depressive symptoms that do not meet the criteria for a major depressive episode. Individuals with cyclothymia may experience mood swings, but the symptoms are less intense and do not typically interfere significantly with daily functioning. It's a chronic condition that lasts for at least two years (one year in children and adolescents). Cyclothymic Disorder is considered a subtype within the broader category of bipolar and related disorders. Cyclothymia can be a difficult diagnosis to receive. You may feel as though someone is saying your symptoms are 'not serious enough', but this isn't the case. Cyclothymia can seriously impact your life. And mental health is a spectrum that covers lots of different experiences. Bipolar with seasonal pattern Bipolar disorder with seasonal pattern means that mood swings (like feeling high or low) follow a seasonal cycle. For some, depression may happen more in winter, and mania or high energy may occur in spring or summer. Bipolar II is a mood disorder marked by cycles of depression and hypomania. Hypomania is a less severe form of mania, involving elevated mood and increased energy. Individuals with Bipolar II don't experience full-blown mania but still have significant mood shifts. Bipolar 2 Bipolar disorder with seasonal pattern means that mood swings (like feeling high or low) follow a seasonal cycle. For some, depression may happen more in winter, and mania or high energy may occur in spring or summer. Bipolar 2 You are not alone Learning to cope Dealing with bipolar disorder can be tough, especially without clear coping strategies. Finding effective ways to manage is Important for a better life. It's important to understand bipolar disorder personally, and professionals suggest these tips. While it might be challenging to find the right approach, staying open-minded and resilient can make a big difference. Monitor your mood You might find it helps to keep track of your moods over a period of time. You could try noting down mood patterns in a diary or on your phone. Understanding your triggers You might find it helps to understand what can trigger changes in your mood. Triggers are different for different people. Some examples include: Feeling overwhelmed or busy Stressful periods Significant life events, like weddings, having a child or losing a loved one Periods of change or uncertainty Lack of sleep Other physical or mental health issues Changes or problems with your treatment for bipolar disorder It can help to recognise these patterns. Then you can take action to avoid the trigger or minimise its impact. ​ Learn your warning signs You may start to notice a pattern to how you feel before an episode. This could be changes in your: Sleeping pattern Eating patterns or appetite Behaviour Being aware that you're about to have a change in mood can help you make sure that: You have support systems in place You can focus on looking after yourself You're able to share warning signs with family and friends who can help you Stick to a routine Having a routine can help you feel calmer if your mood is high, motivated if your mood is low, and generally more stable. Your routine could include: Day-to-day activities, such as the time you eat meals and go to sleep. Making time for relaxation , mindfulness , hobbies and social plans. Taking any medication at the same time each day. This can also help you manage side effects and make sure there's a consistent level in your system. Mange stress Stress can trigger mood episodes . There are lots of things you can try which might help you to: Avoid stress Manage stress Look after yourself when you feel stressed ​ Look after your physical health Try to get enough sleep. Disturbed sleep can be both a trigger and a symptom of episodes. Getting enough sleep can help you keep your mood stable or shorten an episode. ​ Eat a healthy diet Eating a balanced and nutritious diet can help you feel well, think clearly and calm your mood. Exercise regularly Gentle exercise, like yoga or swimming, can help you relax and manage stress. Regular exercise can help by: Using up energy when you're feeling high Releasing endorphins – the 'feel-good' chemicals in the brain – when you're feeling low ​ Build a support network Building a support network could help to manage your mood. This might include friends, family or other people in your life who you trust and can talk to. The kind of support they can offer includes: Being able to recognise signs that you may be experiencing a mood episode . Helping you look after yourself by keeping a routine or a healthy diet. Listening and offering their understanding. Helping you reflect on and remember what happened during a manic episode. Helping you plan for a crisis . Try to tell those around you what you find helpful and what you don't find helpful. For example, you can agree together what things you'd like their help with and what you would like to manage by yourself. ​ Information from Bipolar UK Treatment Options Managing bipolar disorder involves reducing the intensity and frequency of depressive and manic episodes. Untreated episodes can endure for 3 to 6 months, with depressive episodes typically lasting between 6 to 12 months. With effective intervention, improvements are often noticeable within approximately 3 months. Various treatment approaches exist, including medications, psychological therapies, and lifestyle adjustments like dietary enhancements and better sleep habits. Your GP and psychiatrist will discuss these options with you, and many individuals with bipolar disorder can undergo treatment without requiring hospitalization. In severe cases or when governed by the Mental Health Act, hospitalization may be necessary due to the risk of self-harm or harm to others. A day hospital might be considered in certain situations, allowing for treatment during the day with the flexibility to return home at night. Therapy Options This may include: psychoeducation – to find out more about bipolar disorder cognitive behavioural therapy (CBT) family therapy supportive psychotherapy (counselling) trauma informed psychotherapy Talking with a trained therapist is an important part of treatment for bipolar disorder. A therapist can help you deal with depression. They can also give you advice on how to improve relationships and address any unresolved trauma or emotional distress. Psychological treatment usually consists of around 16 sessions. Each session lasts an hour and takes place over a period of 6 to 9 months. Lifestyle Getting ​ regular exercise Planning activities you enjoy that give you a sense of achievement Improving your diet Getting more sleep You can get lifestyle advice from your psychologist or community mental health team. Learning to recognise triggers You can learn to recognise the warning signs of an episode of mania or depression. Someone close to you may be able to help you identify your early signs of relapse from your history. For example, a mental health professional, peer support worker, family member or friend. Wellness Recovery Action Plans (WRAP) are very useful. Your local community mental health team can advise you on how to develop this plan. This will not prevent the episode from happening, but it will allow you to get help in time. This may mean making some changes to your treatment. Your GP or specialist can talk to you about this. -HSE Support Support can mean talking with a friend, family member, teacher, GP or Mental health services. Don't suffer in silence there are people there to listen. ​ Bipolar UK St Patricks Mental health services Aware Ireland Ireland resources Other Countries Information from this website has come from the NHS, HSE and bipolar Uk.

  • ADHD | The Hope Project

    ADHD - Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder Attention deficit hyperactivity disorder (ADHD) is a behavioural disorder that impacts people. Individuals with ADHD may appear restless, have difficulty concentrating, and may act on impulse. ADHD symptoms are often seen at a young age and may become more obvious as a child's surroundings change, such as starting school. The majority of instances are diagnosed while children are under the age of 12, however it can be diagnosed later in life. ADHD is sometimes misdiagnosed as a youngster and only discovered as an adult. ADHD stands for Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder. It is a neurodevelopmental disorder that affects the brain's ability to control attention, impulses, and behavior. People with ADHD may have difficulty focusing on tasks, organizing themselves, and completing tasks. They may also be hyperactive and impulsive, finding it difficult to sit still or control their actions. ADHD can affect people of all ages, and while it is more common in children, it can also affect adults. The exact cause of ADHD is not known, but it is believed to be a combination of genetic and environmental factors. There is no cure for ADHD, but it can be managed with medication, therapy, and lifestyle changes. With the right treatment, people with ADHD can lead fulfilling and successful lives. Other issues, including as sleep and anxiety difficulties, may occur in people with ADHD. ​ Parents of ADHD children Caring for a child with ADHD can be difficult, but it's vital to realise that they can't control their behaviour. Certain daily activities may be more challenging for you and your kid, such as: how to persuade your child to sleep at night getting ready for school on time, listening to and following directions, being organised for social events, and shopping. ​ Adults with ADHD Adults with ADHD may find they have problems with: organisation and time management following instructions focusing and completing tasks coping with stress feeling restless or impatient impulsiveness and risk taking Some adults may also have issues with relationships or social interaction. ​ Children with ADHD Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) can pose challenges for children in various aspects of life, including school, social interactions, and self-regulation. Here are some common symptoms of ADHD in children: Inattention: Children with ADHD may have difficulty paying attention, following instructions, and completing tasks. They may also struggle to organize and prioritize their activities and often appear forgetful or absent-minded. Hyperactivity: Children with ADHD may exhibit excessive restlessness and fidgeting, often appearing as if they are constantly on the go. They may have difficulty sitting still, waiting their turn, or playing quietly. Impulsivity: Children with ADHD may act without thinking and have difficulty controlling their impulses. They may interrupt others, blurt out answers, and have difficulty waiting their turn. Forgetfulness: Children with ADHD may forget to do tasks or may lose things frequently. Difficulty with Executive Functioning: This includes difficulty with starting tasks, planning, organizing, and completing tasks. It is essential to note that every child with ADHD may exhibit a different combination of symptoms, and these symptoms may vary in severity. If you suspect that your child may have ADHD, it is recommended to seek professional evaluation and treatment. However, there are several strategies that can help children cope with ADHD: Establish a Routine: Children with ADHD tend to benefit from having a structured routine, as it can help them manage their time and stay focused. Set a regular schedule for daily activities, including waking up, meals, homework, and bedtime. Break Tasks into Smaller Steps: Breaking larger tasks into smaller steps can make them more manageable for children with ADHD. This can help reduce overwhelm and make it easier for them to focus on one task at a time. Use Visual Aids: Visual aids such as pictures, charts, or calendars can help children with ADHD understand and remember tasks and responsibilities. For instance, you can use a whiteboard to list daily tasks or a color-coded calendar to help them keep track of important dates. Provide Positive Reinforcement: Positive reinforcement can encourage good behavior and help children with ADHD stay motivated. Praise and reward their efforts, such as completing a task, staying focused, or following instructions. Encourage Physical Activity: Physical activity can help reduce hyperactivity and improve focus in children with ADHD. Encourage your child to engage in regular physical activities, such as sports, dancing, or yoga. Seek Professional Help: ADHD is a medical condition that requires professional diagnosis and treatment. Seek help from a qualified healthcare professional, such as a pediatrician, psychologist, or psychiatrist, who can provide appropriate treatment options, including medication, therapy, or a combination of both. Support and Empathize: Support your child and show empathy for their struggles. Children with ADHD may experience frustration, anxiety, or low self-esteem. Show them that you understand their challenges and are there to help them cope and succeed. Strategies for coping There are several strategies and techniques that can be helpful for managing ADHD symptoms. Here are some tips: Seek a professional diagnosis: If you suspect you have ADHD, it's important to get a professional diagnosis from a healthcare provider. This can help you understand your symptoms and develop a treatment plan that's tailored to your needs. Medication: Medication can be an effective treatment for ADHD. There are several types of medication available that can help improve concentration, focus, and impulse control. However, it's important to work with a healthcare provider to find the right medication and dosage for you. Behavioral therapy: Behavioral therapy can help you learn coping strategies and develop new habits to manage your symptoms. This can include techniques such as cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT), mindfulness, and organizational skills training. Exercise: Regular exercise can help improve concentration and reduce hyperactivity and impulsivity. It can also help reduce stress and improve mood. Sleep hygiene: Getting enough sleep is important for managing ADHD symptoms. Establishing a consistent sleep routine and avoiding stimulating activities before bedtime can help improve sleep quality. Organization: Establishing routines and systems for organizing your home, workspace, and schedule can help reduce distractions and improve productivity. Support: Finding a support group or talking with friends and family can provide emotional support and help you feel less isolated. Remember, everyone with ADHD is different, so it's important to find strategies that work for you. A combination of medication, therapy, and lifestyle changes may be necessary for optimal management of ADHD symptoms More resources Support Ireland: HADD Ireland provides information, support, and advocacy for individuals and families affected by ADHD. Shine offers support for people with ADHD as well as other mental health conditions. UK: ADHD Foundation provides support, advice, and training for people with ADHD, their families, and professionals. ADDISS (The National Attention Deficit Disorder Information and Support Service) provides information and resources about ADHD. America: CHADD (Children and Adults with Attention-Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder) offers education, advocacy, and support for individuals with ADHD and their families. The Attention Deficit Disorder Association (ADDA) provides support, information, and resources for individuals with ADHD. Canada: CADDAC (Centre for ADHD Awareness Canada) provides information, support, and advocacy for individuals with ADHD and their families. ADHD Canada provides information and resources about ADHD, including support groups and workshops.

  • Mental Health | Thehopeproject

    Welcome to HOPE HOPE - Hold On, Pain Ends About Us Not all Storms come to disrupt your life, some come to clear your path.... Quote of the month Information Anxiety Depression Eating Disorders Self Harm Panic Attacks Suicidal thoughts Your Stories "I've been suffering from mental health issues for about 3 years and been struggling with self harm & suicidal thoughts for most of that time. one day last year i had just had enough and i’d completely given up & lost hope that anything would get better, that night i made an attempt on my life which then landed me in hospital requiring treatment. for anyone considering taking their lives please give life another shot, i know things are unimaginably tough for you right now but things can improve with time and the right help. you matter, you’re strong and the world is a better place with you in it. keep fighting <3" Read More

  • Grief and coping with loss | The Hope Project

    Grief and coping with loss Losing someone you love can be one of the hardest things to deal with. Especially if you were close to that person. "Grief is a natural response to loss. It’s the emotional suffering you feel when something or someone you love is taken away. Often, the pain of loss can feel overwhelming. You may experience all kinds of difficult and unexpected emotions, from shock or anger to disbelief, guilt, and profound sadness. The pain of grief can also disrupt your physical health, making it difficult to sleep, eat, or even think straight. These are normal reactions to loss—and the more significant the loss, the more intense your grief will be." Grieving process There is no right or wrong way to grieve; it is a very personal process. How you grieve is determined by a wide range of things, such as your personality and coping mechanisms, your life experience, your religious beliefs, and the importance of the loss to you. The grieving process inevitably requires time. There is no "normal" timeframe for grieving; healing develops gradually and cannot be hastened or coerced. In weeks or months, some people start to feel better. For some it may take years. Whatever your level of pain, it's crucial to be kind to yourself and let things take their course. If you’ve experienced a loss, there are a number of things that will help you as you grieve: be gentle with yourself. Your energy may be low for a while so do not place too many demands on yourself. look after your physical health. You may find you’ve lost your appetite. However, it’s important that you eat healthily. Many people find eating small but frequent meals helpful. It’s also important to try to get some exercise; even a small walk each day can be beneficial. make sure you get enough rest and sleep. This will help you avoid becoming run down or physically ill. seek out support from others who are willing to listen. Talking is important because it helps you express what you’re feeling. Try to find one or two people with whom you can simply be yourself and who’ll allow you to talk when you need to. allow yourself to experience the feelings that come with bereavement, even if they’re difficult. It can be helpful to talk these over with someone you trust. This could be a family member, although it’s important to remember they are grieving too. Sometimes, talking to someone outside the family can be beneficial. don’t rush things. You’re trying to come to terms with a major upheaval in your life. Give yourself permission to take things a bit easier. In general, it’s best to put off making major decisions such as moving home or changing jobs for at least six months to a year. Physical and emotional symptoms of grief These are some of the physical symptoms of grief that you may experience: a hollow feeling in your stomach tightness, or heaviness, in your chest or throat oversensitivity to noise difficulty breathing feeling very tired and weak a lack of energy dry mouth an increase or decrease in appetite finding it hard to sleep or fear of sleeping aches and pains. Normal emotional reactions can include: Temporary loss of interest in things that used to bring joy Numbness, shock, sadness, despair, fear, guilt Decreased confidence and self-esteem Temporary increase in anxiety Sense of loss of control Changes in capacity and ability to deal with stress Less focus at work Changes in interpersonal relationships If your sadness, anxiety or depression persist for a period of time without relief, or if you experience significant impacts to your ability to function in the world, you may need to seek professional help. Things to be on the lookout for include: Inability to get out of bed Deep sense of hopelessness all the time Listlessness that does not go away Complete lack of joy in things that used to bring you great joy Suicidal thoughts Self-isolation Sleep disruption that does not get better over time Inability to work Ways to cope Coping with loss is something that's very hard to do. Its okay to be upset, shocked or many other things you may be feeling. Its okay to let yourself grieve, be patient with yourself. Talking to a professional about how you're feeling and getting tips off them can help greatly. Remember you're never alone and there's always someone there to listen 24/7. Resources Information on this page is from https://hospicefoundation.ie/i-need-help/i-am-bereaved/coping-with-loss/ https://www.betterup.com/blog/symptoms-of-grief https://www.helpguide.org/articles/grief/coping-with-grief-and-loss.htm

  • Contact | THE HOPE PROJECT

    Contact the Hope project Ireland thehopeproject.ie@gmail.com The Hope Project is here to provide support to those struggling with mental health issues. We are available to listen to anyone. For those who want to vent, talk about anything, write about their day or anything else, they can message us and we'll be there to listen. We understand how hard it can be to talk about mental health issues, and we are here for you. If you have any questions or concerns, please don't hesitate to reach out to us. Name Email Subject Message Submit

  • Suicidal thoughts | The Hope Project

    Suicidal Thoughts If you are having thoughts of suicide you're not alone. They can be scary and they can give you many other unwanted feelings and thoughts. Remember you don't have to act on these thoughts. You are so loved and worth so much. What are suicidal thoughts? Feeling suicidal can range from thinking about dying to planning how to do it. It might make you feel scared or overwhelmed, but it's important to know you're not alone. Many people go through these thoughts at some point in their lives. People experience suicidal feelings differently. You might feel overwhelmed by tough emotions, feeling like you can't handle them. It might not be so much about wanting to die, but feeling like you can't keep living the way you are. These feelings can grow gradually or fluctuate from one moment to the next. It's normal to feel confused about why you're feeling this way. These thoughts aren't permanent, You will feel okay again, with the right support . When you're in the grip of suicidal feelings, it can be really tough. It might seem like there's no way out, like acting on those feelings is the only option, or that nothing can make the pain go away. But remember, those feelings, though intense, can pass. In this moment, there are things you can try. Even if it feels like nothing will make a difference, give these strategies a chance. You might feel differently once you've given them a shot. Instead of fixating on the future, focus on getting through this moment or day. You've likely experienced similar feelings before, and they've eventually faded. Remind yourself that this pain is temporary; it will likely ease with time. Try changing your immediate thoughts by doing something different or shifting your focus. It doesn't have to be a big change—small steps can help. ​ Don’t make a decision today You don’t need to act on your thoughts right now. You can try to focus on just getting through now, or today, and not the rest of your life. You may have had these thoughts before, but you feel less able to cope today. You might find that you are more able to cope in a few days. ​ Other ways to cope Talk to someone about how you are feeling - This could be a Family Member, Teacher, Friend, Counsellor or a Hotline. If you are finding it hard to talk about what you’re going through, you can try starting with: “Lately, I’ve been feeling…” “I think it started when…” “I’ve been feeling this for a while…” or “I’m thinking about…” Write about your feelings, Writing down how you are feeling can really help. Writing in a journal or on a piece of paper and then destroying that paper can give you a sense of relief. Take things a little at a time. Set out to get through the next day, the next week or month, perhaps the next hour or even less. Tell yourself: "I've got through so far, I can get through the next hour". Coping with these thoughts What you May think or feel ​ hopeless, like there is no point in living tearful and overwhelmed by negative thoughts unbearable pain that you can't imagine ending useless, not wanted or not needed by others desperate, as if you have no other choice like everyone would be better off without you cut off from your body or physically numb fascinated by death. What you may experience poor sleep, including waking up earlier than you want to a change in appetite, weight gain or loss no desire to take care of yourself, for example neglecting your physical appearance wanting to avoid others making a will or giving away possessions struggling to communicate self-loathing and low self-esteem urges to self-harm . Mind.org Distractions ​ Do something else, and focus your attention fully on what you're doing, e.g. • Gardening Household chores Physical exercise - walk, run, cycle, dance. Tapping (Emotional Freedom Technique) Reading - magazine, self help book Television Seek out a supportive discussion forum on the internet • Learn something new on the internet • Go to the park, the beach - pay attention to nature. Visit someone Music Play with a pet. DIY Feed the birds Sudoku or crossword Do something creative: painting, writing, knitting, play a musical instrument, make a collage, bake a cake, cook a meal, arrange some flowers, make a website or blog. Safety Plan Having a safety plan while in a moment of crisis can be extremely helpful. You can make your own on websites and apps such as: Canva Word Phonto Or you can download some online. Samaritans Getselfhelp SpunOut.ie Everylifematters Resources and helplines Ireland Samaritans - Call 116123 or email Jo@samaritans.ie . ​ Pieta House - Call 1800 247 247 or Text HELP to 51444 ​ Text about it - Text HELLO to 50808 ​ Childline - For people up to the age of 18 Freephone 1800 66 66 66 Text 50101 Live chat at www.childline.ie ​ Go to your GP if you are struggling. In an emergency go to your local hospital or call 999 and ask for Ambulance or Gardi For other Countries please go to our resources and helplines page. Resources If you think that its the end remember your life is just beginning. UK Samaritans - Call 116123 Email jo@samaritans.org ​ Campaign Against Living Miserably (CALM) Call 0800 58 58 58 – 5pm to midnight every day Visit the webchat page ​ Papyrus – prevention of young suicide HOPELINE247 Call 0800 068 41 41 Text 07860 039967 Email pat@papyrus-uk.org ​ Childline – for children and young people under 19 Call 0800 1111 SOS Silence of Suicide – for everyone Call 0300 1020 505 – 4pm to midnight every day Email support@sossilenceofsuicide.org ​ Shout Crisis Text Line – for everyone Text "SHOUT" to 85258 ​ YoungMinds Crisis Messenger – for people under 19 Text "YM" to 85258 ​ Go to your GP if you are struggling. If you or someone you know is in Crisis call 999 and ask for Ambulance or Police, or go to your nearest hospital. You will get through this, You are not alone.

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